Not Your Grandma’s Cup of Sugar: 5 Essentials for Being a Good Digital Neighbor

The neighborhood’s not what it used to be. With the digital revolution moving in and planning to stay, the concept of a community is no longer confined to geographical boundaries. Social media platforms, blogs, apps, and the general internet of things have connected people with similar interests from around the world, helping them develop communities that would not have been possible just a couple decades ago. The “send” button is our new “howdy, neighbor!” - but that doesn’t mean the need for congeniality has changed just because we have a new method of delivery. While you’re busy keeping up with @TheJoneses, make sure you’re still acknowledging the people behind the profile pics. It’s only neighborly, after all.

1. Introduce yourself.

No need to hide behind that default Twitter egg! Make an effort to present yourself well, with a photograph of yourself (not your kid or your cat. YOU) and a fully filled-in profile. There is a reason you were drawn to this platform, be it Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, or anything else. Think about why you chose this space to communicate. Tell people what you want them to know about you. Shake off that blank bio and start making your presence known.

2. Show up to the block party - and don’t come empty-handed.

It’s not enough to simply take up real estate on the corner lot; you have to make the effort to participate in your community if you expect to see any benefits. Find out where the interesting conversations are happening, and make sure you’re contributing value to the dialogue when you post. Never make an ask without first making an offer. Want people to read your blog? Consider you for a job? Promote your latest project? That’s great. But why would they want to? Be sure you’re commenting on other people’s posts, sharing their content, and creating helpful content of your own before you need to ask anyone for a favor.

3. Keep the noise down.

No one likes to see their timeline bombarded with spammy, braggy, look-at-me posts. Remember, if you’re not adding value, you’re adding noise pollution. Talk like a person, not a sales pitch.

4. Don’t steal the newspaper.

The rules are simple: If it’s not yours, don’t act like it is. This is as true for intellectual property as it is for tangible objects. Give credit where it’s due. If you’re quoting someone, tag them. If you use an image or graphic, make sure it’s licensed under Creative Commons. Link to the original sources when you share content. Students aren’t allowed to present other people’s work as there own, and neither are you. Besides, it’s just good manners.

5. Keep your dog off the neighbor’s lawn.

In other words? Keep your crap away from other people’s stuff. Negativity and gossip don’t make great lawn ornaments, and they look ten times worse in the digital world. Tarnishing another person’s digital identity is a smarmy thing to do - and it’s a permanent reflection on the both of you. Keep the dirt to yourself and make the internet a better neighborhood for everybody.

Most importantly, remember that each of those avatars and usernames have actual human beings behind them. Social media is “real life,” with all of the intersocial complexities we’ve always faced. It’s a communal space, and we are indeed a community. So be kind, be yourself, and be a good neighbor. It makes a difference.

Danielle Poupore works at John Jay College in New York City as their Communications and Marketing Specialist. Follow her on Twitter @SoMeDanielleP. Learn more about her work as a freelance marketer at www.daniellepoupore.com.